The problem this time I want to discuss is the issue of a child who was spoiled and less independent. Parents often complain to me. Oh my child is less independent, how to do so makes him independent. I think he’s too spoiled dech. My parents grew up with a mediocre economy. Finally I finished on his own to do everything. My son seems too tasty.
Usually when parents began to complain like that, I just turned around to ask them. “Sir, Ma’am .. actually you already know the answer to do? “,” What do you mean how? “They asked,” was Mr. Mom had told me that when you first was raised mediocre and you have to do it all by yourself. And your children are now too comfortable because all you have to provide. That’s the whole problem, you provide for your child without making him fight. You already know the problem but you still do “. They began to realize the problem now. “But how else it pity? Instead he’s not bother “. That’s the whole problem, we do not want to make a fuss of our children. Actually it does not make our children busy. Actually it to exercise that needs to live it so that he can develop himself.
Children who are less independent and spoiled, are children who do not develop autonomy. You need to know that at one stage of development, they have a stage where they want greater autonomy. It started when they were 2 or 3 years. She wanted to do something at that time. But usually we parents sometimes too protective of children. When he wanted to climb the chair, we banned him, “do not later fall”. When he was holding something we do not allow fear broke and so forth. Well, eventually the child is being passive and just wait for what we give or what is given by the guardians. When this happens many years we have started to form a pattern within our children. To be passive and not independent. You try to give it a practice to his own children.
If you have a child who had stepped on the 1st grade, you should not bring her purse when she got out of the car. You might argue, “ouch .. I’ve got to go to work, if you wait a long time he really “. It should not be done. You can leave early if you know it will make you late and let him carry the bag himself into his class. Just because we do not want to be bothered finally “here not already been entered in the class can bring.” That’s the little things that make your child become less independent. If he was able to return the plates he used to eat into the sink, let him do it. “Why .. if so what is the point helper that I pay “. That’s the problem you do not give your child a chance to develop themselves. All it takes practice. You can not make a child without a process independent. Just like when we first raised by the condition painstakingly by our parents. At that time our parents may have accidentally done it to us. They might even feel guilty for not being able to serve us as possible. But that’s a good turn out for us, for our development. We eventually became an independent. And then when we now have to succeed we do not do that in children, the grounds would be too sad.
Dear readers, this is the problem we have to train our children to have an independent character. We should give them a chance as possible to develop themselves by doing many little things that are very, very useful for the development of his character. When a child returns her plate in place, lift the bag itself, returning shoes to wear when she had finished, or conducting small then the child will feel a positive self esteem. He will feel that he is equal with adults who do such things. This will create confidence soared. Therefore this opportunity to give your children. You will never be disappointed to see them grow and develop the spirit of self-reliance when they start stepping on the teenage years.
So make sure you give your child a chance to do anything that he’s been able to do. That’s the key to helping a child have an independent character, confident and able to do everything with full responsibility.