Parenting: Negative Assumptions Can Weaken the Mental Hygiene

Each child had done things that we did not expect. Is it because we did not expect then that was a mistake? Incidence of unwanted triggers us to assume that blame the child. The effect is to undermine the child’s mental.

Prang! There was a plate falls. Nony 2 year old just learning to feed themselves. The dishes he used to eat falls, broken to pieces.

“See, the plate was dropped. Hey, who dropped the plates? “, His father said.

Let’s see, what happened? If you are sensitive, of course you can watch, what is strange incident. Hey what, could find?

Let us underline that there are some events in such a short event. Consider this: Nony just learning to feed themselves, the plate that he used to eat falls, broken to pieces, “See, the plate was dropped,” said his father, “Hey who dropped the plate,” said his father. Okay, we may add, Nony was 2 years old.

Now it can be observed, what strange event?

Overview of nothing strange about the incident. Why? Because the event is a daily occurrence. Due to frequent or often we meet, then so strange.

Let’s look at the glass eye care and psychology. There are fundamental differences between the illustrations,

Prang! There was a plate falls. Nony 2 year old just learning to feed themselves. The dishes he used to eat falls, broken to pieces.

Nony father by saying the following,

“See, the plate was dropped. Hey, who dropped the plates? “, His father said.

What is the difference?

Descriptive illustrations, just describe what is happening. While the father Nony justify (it may be called a judgment) against the event. In fact, the plate falls. But my father did not utter Nony facts, but said the idea that Nony dropped. Is factually Nony dropped? no. Existing plate falling, just that.

Think again, we as a child or a parent, whether experienced or did it? It may also be denied, becauseĀ  do not feel like a mistake. The behavior becomes a habit does not feel like a mistake.

That is done by the father or the like Nony is negative assumptions that often parents think about the events that occur in children. ‘Falling plate’ can turn into ‘dropping a plate’. It was definitely two different things. So also with ‘torn books’ to ‘tear off the books’, ‘dirty clothes’ to ‘contaminate clothes’ and so on.

When we used to do it, then the child will be in a position to blame. If children continue to be blamed, it will weaken the child’s mental. Want your child so weak-minded son, sees itself low, insecure, always feel guilty and awkward?